Joshua

Regaining confidence after an attack

From Carol-Beth's journal, when Joshua was 10... A couple of weeks ago we spent a few days with some dear friends of ours. We love to spend time with them and their kids and our kids get along so well that we won't hear from any of them for hours. The very first night we… Continue reading Regaining confidence after an attack

Noah

How to help your child process sexual abuse

Noah is the sweetest child in the world.  He's like an angel for a visit amongst the rest of us. He's easily distracted and can get lost in a large house, so it's not that he's perfect. He's just sweet. When he was 8, though, he was angry. "I have to do what? Brush my… Continue reading How to help your child process sexual abuse

Joshua, Noah

How to support a child who has experienced trauma

Your child may have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or he may have some symptoms but never receive an official diagnosis, like Joshua.  My simple mom-mind finds it easiest to think of it in very basic terms.  My prayer for Joshua was to be able to no longer relive what had happened to him.  I’m thankful… Continue reading How to support a child who has experienced trauma

Joshua, Mom

What to do when stress from past trauma lingers

10/10/2007 Carol-Beth's journal Tonight Joshua went to dance class. He's taking a hip hop class and a tap class. During the tap class a little girl who's about a head taller than him decided that staring at him, but not speaking, would be fun. He didn't think it was fun. I checked in on him… Continue reading What to do when stress from past trauma lingers

Mom

The anger that comes when innocence is taken

Sometimes when you are hurting, it seems everyone else is farther along. Everyone else has it figured out. The Scott family is doing well now, but here's a glimpse of Carol-Beth's thoughts shortly after the attacks. Know that you are not alone...  The thing is, it never stops hurting. When I see people taking risks… Continue reading The anger that comes when innocence is taken

The Not Destroyed Family

How to get your child to name the sexual abuser

It's human nature to want your child to name his or her abuser right away, but many won't be ready. It’s important to realize from the very beginning that you will never feel confident of your child’s truth if you feed her any information.  Also, your word will not hold up in a court of… Continue reading How to get your child to name the sexual abuser

The Not Destroyed Family

How to tell if your child has been sexually abused

If you are here on this page, you are probably terrified. And I am so sorry. I've been there. Our house was one of the places where it happened. It happened while I was taking care of my baby girl, Hannah. Teenagers from our church youth group were filling every corner of our house with their… Continue reading How to tell if your child has been sexually abused